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In the past ten years, the amount of interracial couples in the U.S. has tremendously increased. While this may be good in some senses, it still poses the question of where this leaves same-race couples. More specifically African American couples.
Many people often criticize black women for dating outside their race, but black men never seem to get quite the same criticism. In fact, many black men are praised when they date races other than African American. Being fairer-skinned with black women's bodily features seems to be the going trend nowadays.
Though black women have slowly stepped on the interracial dating trend, they are still found to be less progressive than black men. However, if the men the same race as them are all dating outside their race... where does that leave black women?
There's also the concept of black women being the leading amount of women attaining college degrees and growing in the business world whereas black men have had more stagnant or decreasing numbers. There could be some circumstances of intimidation or just not wanting to feel as though your woman is the ultimate breadwinner (a different conversation for a different time), but these are ideals that are not too far fetched. Black women are also known to be more "aggressive" or less tolerable of things that they find to be Many men don't seem to like this or find it insensitive which is some of the reason they date outside their race. For others, it could be wanting to try something new or just the luck of the draw.
As mentioned before, the fact that black men date Caucasian women that have the features that black women have such as bigger lips or a more curvaceous figure. My response to that is that there is nothing like the original so no matter how much you try to dress it up, cover it up-- it's still not authentic. It is discouraging as a black woman when you see women copying the things that you do and posing it as "better" or when they are more readily accepted by society than what the originators are. That's why it's important to just remember who you are & your true beauty because will society will make you feel bad for how you look whether intentionally or not.
The answer to the ever so concerning the question "is black love dying?" is no. I say no because if it's love that involves a man or woman of color, it is black love. May the love of same-race relationships, the race being African American, be decreasing? Of course, but we shouldn't make others feel bad for who they decide to be with. You never know what someone's previous relationship history is or what they've had to go through to actually be with someone who appreciates them the way that person does.
At the end of the day, happiness is what should be at the forefront.
I mean hey, just look at Lauren and Cameron from the new hit Netflix series, Love Is Blind. They met and connected with each other without actually seeing each other. Then, by the time they did, it didn't really matter because they had already made a deeper connection. The looks were just a bonus.
Though black women have slowly stepped on the interracial dating trend, they are still found to be less progressive than black men. However, if the men the same race as them are all dating outside their race... where does that leave black women?
There's also the concept of black women being the leading amount of women attaining college degrees and growing in the business world whereas black men have had more stagnant or decreasing numbers. There could be some circumstances of intimidation or just not wanting to feel as though your woman is the ultimate breadwinner (a different conversation for a different time), but these are ideals that are not too far fetched. Black women are also known to be more "aggressive" or less tolerable of things that they find to be Many men don't seem to like this or find it insensitive which is some of the reason they date outside their race. For others, it could be wanting to try something new or just the luck of the draw.
As mentioned before, the fact that black men date Caucasian women that have the features that black women have such as bigger lips or a more curvaceous figure. My response to that is that there is nothing like the original so no matter how much you try to dress it up, cover it up-- it's still not authentic. It is discouraging as a black woman when you see women copying the things that you do and posing it as "better" or when they are more readily accepted by society than what the originators are. That's why it's important to just remember who you are & your true beauty because will society will make you feel bad for how you look whether intentionally or not.
The answer to the ever so concerning the question "is black love dying?" is no. I say no because if it's love that involves a man or woman of color, it is black love. May the love of same-race relationships, the race being African American, be decreasing? Of course, but we shouldn't make others feel bad for who they decide to be with. You never know what someone's previous relationship history is or what they've had to go through to actually be with someone who appreciates them the way that person does.
At the end of the day, happiness is what should be at the forefront.
I mean hey, just look at Lauren and Cameron from the new hit Netflix series, Love Is Blind. They met and connected with each other without actually seeing each other. Then, by the time they did, it didn't really matter because they had already made a deeper connection. The looks were just a bonus.
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