Do You Know What Your Dreams Are?

"Never put your dreams in another person's hands because they will never love your dream like you do. " 
 - Billionaire PA


As your going about your life, and finding out your true interests along with dislikes you begin to form dreams about what you want to do with your life. These dreams can be about a future relationship, financial increase or even a career you want to have. In life, you will also come in contact with things or people that will try to stop you from living your dreams. Sometimes you can even stop yourself from living your dreams. I know when you first have a dream or an idea for something, you get so excited that you just want to tell someone but that can hinder you from a blessing.

  

Not everyone is meant to go where God could be taking you. 

I also know its easy to feel insecure about the dreams you have because you keep comparing your dreams to someone else's success story when you really should be building your own story. And if your comparing your life & success to someone else's then how could you possibly know your own?

No dream is ever to big or small,  so don't feel like you can't achieve them based off their size. Even though in hindsight, determining if a dream is too big or small could be the line that's drawn on if it's a goal or dream. Sometimes we think our goals are so far fetched that we can make them in to a dream, which can make us think it can't be a reality.

What could make you think your dreams aren't big enough?

Many of you could fear that your dream isn't big enough to reach your fullest potential. Others may find their dreams aren't big enough because of comparison. Whatever the case may be, don't let those things or anything else sway you from the dream you want to pursue.

For those of you that are just beginning to follow your dreams, or have felt stagnant while trying to follow your dreams may be at the point where you even know where you want to begin or continue. And that is OKAY! Not everything is something you have to see to believe. For example, you work a job for "x" amount of hours per week, and when you've put in both the time & energy for said job you believe that a direct deposit is going to be in your account, but you believe that before you even see it.

What's the difference with your dreams?

Yes, you still have things you think you want to do; you just never pursue them or you don't know what steps to take to achieve the dreams you want to see manifest. The first step, however, to achieving your dreams is believing them before you see them or before anyone else around you can see them. How can you expect someone to believe or invest in your dream if you can't even do it for yourself? If you don't know what your dreams are start with writing out things you want to accomplish both long, and short term. Then, determine what's at the top of your list and how attainable it is based off what the time frame you want it done in and start pushing towards it!

So what's holding you back? Well actually, I should say what do you think is holding you back? Stop allowing yourself to diminish your own dreams so that you know how to stop someone else who's going to try to diminish your dreams along the way. 

Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.

My Take on Jayla Koriyan's "Pretty 'n' Educated"

For the past four to five months, I've been reading one of my favorite YouTuber's books. Now I know that sounds like such a long time, but for how much I was busy I would say that was a decent amount of time. I first heard about the book after it's initial release in 2016, and decided to add it to my "sweet sixteen wishlist." The book is written by beauty influencer Jayla Koriyan who has since publishing her book created her own hair extensions company, worked with various makeup brands & has reached over 300,000 subscribers on YouTube.

I enjoyed the book so much even after the first couple chapters, I decided to do a photoshoot with it.





       The book was intended to be a guide for young girls who are going to be entering college to  give them all the do's & don'ts when arriving or even before arrival. Personally, I found the book to be very refreshing, and helpful as I myself will be graduating in the year 2019. The book is a great guide to help give you the in's & outs of things you may only have a surface knowledge of.

Jayla gave advice about college from the beginning to the end. It can be scary for anyone, male or female, to go to college. Especially when going in to a new environment, finding where you fit in or a particular niche. Some of my favorite topics that she talked about in the book was being able to budget financially, how to stay low on college debt, and even balancing both academic & party life. I felt as though Jayla was very apologetic with her approach on things while staying sensitive to the issues that you can face while in college. I'm glad that she decided to discuss  & staying safe while being sexually active. We tend to not think about those types of things while in the moment. One decision you can make can really change the rest of your life so it's more than important to stay on top of things, and ask questions when need be. 
To add, Jayla has always been pretty helpful when it comes to fashion & makeup so I wasn't surprised when that too was included in the book. I appreciated it being towards the end because for some people that can be their main concern instead of the actual issues they may have to face. One thing I do wish is that she would've spent a little more time on is mental health, and depression while in college but even still, everything was coordinated greatly in the book.
Jayla also added in segments in the book where you can write in for your own experiences or fill things out with your own answers. For example, when giving advice on moving in to college Jayla gave room for you to write in your pros and cons for life on & off campus. Along with this, she made space for all of her personal tips on dorm life & a dorm essentials checklist. These tips of writing spaces are all throughout the book depending on what the topic for that section is. Following this, after every chapter there's also a quote from relating to the chapter, majority of them directly from her.
One of my favorite quotes from the book, though there was so many, was "to love yourself is the greatest love of all." This quote was one of my favorites because self-love is very essential when it comes to finding yourself when it's easy to be influenced, and pulled in various directions in college. I hope you consider adding this book to your reading list, it's definitely worth it. 



Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.

The Breakdown of WJMC

"To succeed, to jump as quickly at opportunities as you do conclusions." - Benjamin Franklin

Before actually giving my perspective on the Washington Journalism and Media Conference that I attended last week, I wanted to first address the fact that it was one of the best experiences I could've had that helped me learn about journalism & meet people of like-minds that believed in me and reciprocated a fondness for each other that wasn't forced nor fake.


On the first day, it was a little hectic. Everyone finding where their dorms were, meeting roommates & counselors. It was nerve-wracking yet exhilarating. I knew after meeting my faculty and junior faculty advisors that there was actually hopes of a happy week. Beforehand, I honestly didn't know if I'd truly fit in with people. All the people who I'd met before our actual small groups were nice, but it just seemed as if something was missing. After we all got a little used to each other, we prepared to listen to our first speaker-- Sonya Gavankar, who is the director of  public relations at the highly celebrated Newseum. I loved the way she worked the crowd with her quirkiness, and fun-loving personality. All her advice about role models, and jitters from breaking in to the industry was spot on. She was so relatable that I could tell over half the audience felt some type of connection.

The second day was one of my favorites because not only did we go see the monuments, but that's when I really started to feel my group become closer in comparison to the first day. All the monuments were absolutely extraordinary to say the least, and seeing them as the night grew older made it all the better. What I failed to realize at the time was that, that was only the tip of the iceberg.

There was still so much to see & experience.


The Newseum was one of the most interesting & intriguing places I think I've ever been to thus far in my life. It had news from various places all over the country, and from all time periods. It was so cool seeing news broadcasts from the 60s & 70s. As well as, prominent industry trailblazers' stories, and how they became so well known. It really inspired me, and made me feel even more confident about what I feel passionate doing. The speaker we had for this day was Laxmi Parthasarthy who's a director of global media partnerships for a company by the name of "Ashoka." I did hear mixed reviews about her speech, but I personally was able to pull gems from what she was saying. For example, being the only female in a newsroom at some points & the challenges that she faced with that. I also enjoyed how much she emphasized being a minority & reaming confident in your work, that's something I could really relate to on various levels.

Waking up the next day, however, was actually a struggle. Late nights and early mornings became my best friend at WJMC. But it was definitely worth it. On this day we traveled to the MLK Memorial which was, of course, so beautiful. I thought the quotes that were engraved across the walls were a nice addition to the monument itself. Following that, we met our first speaker of the day who was podcast & radio host, Lauren Ober. I enjoyed Lauren because, she too, had a fun-loving personality & connected well with the audience. She kept us engaged, along with laughing all while giving us a little background on podcasts and radio life. I even felt inspired to make a podcast after her speech, it was that impactful to myself as I'm sure it was for lots of other people in the audience.

In between listening speakers, and walking for minutes for what seemed like hours in not so comfortable shoes, each team that was pre-arranged for the conference met on those in-between times where we not only talked about the importance of networking, but the real benefits of news as well as the production process itself. We also discussed having a  professional image that you can be proud of. How you present yourself, especially in an industry that's as competitive as journalism, how you look is one determining factor on how people perceive you & if they'll let you get past an introduction.

Brian Lamb, who's the founder & former CEO of the public relations network C-Span, was one of my favorite speakers of the week because of how invested he was in our opinions & our actual feelings. He went beyond the surface with his questions, and he actually listened to us, ensure we were being heard. I also enjoyed how youthful he was, that was a definitely a pleasant surprise! We all have this misconception of older people, whether it is true or not, that they don't know much about the new generation or even want to know about the new generation & how we actually are vs. how it may appear to be.

Steve Berta was the journalist that broke the story about gymnastics doctor, Larry Nassar, and his sexual interactions with girls on the teams that he worked for. Although I'm sure we weren't told every little detail about what happened alone I could tell the in itself story he told resonated with every female in the building. It can certainly get real for us as females, and for him to be so raw with the story's dynamics & sincere in his approach with how the story was told was appreciated. I'm still in awe with how if he wouldn't have decided to pursue the story or continue his investigation, Larry Nassar would still be in the USA Gymnastics world molesting females.

To end the evening we listened to Phil Murphy, who is the host SportsCenter. Now although I don't want to be a sports journalist myself, I was able to pick out some gems from his speech such as reminding yourself that everything in the end will work out fine, and that being fired in hindsight just opens up another opportunity for you. I also noticed how he took out time to give credit to God because in an industry where you can be constantly be pulled in different directions, it can be easy to lose sight of what's important.

On our second to last day, we had the amazing privilege to hear Carol Guzy talk a little bit about her personal story, but mainly showing other people's stories with her amazingly crafted photo slideshows. The photos were both heartwarming & heart wrenching in one breath. I especially enjoyed how raw & uncut the photos were even though I'm sure there are millions more that are just as impactful if not more. Those images are needed to be seen by everyone I believe to even bring some of the humblest people back down to earth. Following her, we listened to Kevin McCarthy who's a entertainment and film critic & Amy Takayama-Perez, who's the Dean of Admissions at George Mason University. Both of them had amazing advice about preparing for college along with a career following and doing everything in your power beforehand to get to where you want to be.
To end the evening, we met with Meghan ATB Reese who was actually our photographer throughout the entire week. She's also a writer & photographer which she touched in in her speech with us. Something she spoke about that really stood out to me was that "it's okay to fall out of love with what you want to do." I feel as though as teens we're always pressured for everything to be mapped out, and perfect when things don't always have to go as planned. It's okay for things to change.

Our final day before everything started to come to an actual end was one of my other favorites. This was the day we traveled to Capitol Hill, and met with either one of your state representatives or your senator. I chose one of my state representatives who helps represent my state's 3rd district. Congressman Jim Banks was someone who I had the honor to interview, and get to know. The interview definitely went better than expected, and helped me to remember that you definitely have to separate a person from their career. Some of the things I picked up from my interview with Mr.Banks was to learn what I can with the resources you have, to make your voice heard when you can find an outlet, and to find ways to get involved in whatever field you want to get into because connections always help. I hope that maybe one day in the future we can collaborate again. The Gala was something even more memorable. After all of our hard-work throughout the week, it was refreshing to finally have some time to laugh, dance, and enjoy myself with the people who I'd became so close to over the course of a week. That evening was definitely one for the books.


The last day almost didn't feel real. I didn't see all of my close friends (that are now family) right away so I was a little disappointed, but eventually I did get to see them when we had a meeting, and our final speaker for the week. Seeing everyone's long faces is what I feel like helped keep my level-headed along with me having went through a week-long camp experience then having to leave it all behind. The difference between those times, and this one... the people! I can't speak for all the other groups that we were broken in to, but I can speak for my own when I say that WE ARE FAMILY now. I've never felt so close to a group of people before that I'd only known for a week in my life. I honestly feel like it was a blessing in disguise.

After reflecting on everything that I learned, and experience at WJMC I now realize that I don't see things the same way I used to. I not only carry myself differently, but I also view various topics & people differently. This isn't to say that I'm just this totally different person, but I surely have grown from this past week than I could've ever expected to. I cannot thank God enough for this truly amazing event that will impact me for years to come. For anyone who has an idea or has something they feel like is a calling on their life-- GO AFTER IT! Pursue your dreams without judgement or fear, and show others that you take yourself & what you want to do seriously.




Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.

S/N: This was still not even everything that I experienced, and learned while at WJMC. I tried to fit it all in, but I honestly couldn't. I definitely will back sure to circle back on some of the things I left out in posts following this one. I hope you enjoyed reading about my experience.