"The truth will set you free, but first it'll piss you off." - Gloria Steinem
Before I actually get into the post, I just wanted to take a moment to thank all of my wonderful readers & genuine supporters for being so patient and gracious through this time of transition for me. I’ve had so many different changes in my life, both good & bittersweet, that I haven’t had time nor the creative energy to put out content. I’m big on my content being of good quality so that’s why it took longer for me to post something than normal.
I’d rather put out nothing at all than to just put out anything.
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I find it interesting how much of ourselves we give away to people. Not only that, but why do we have to go through so many different "situationships" to remember our self worth? "Treat others the way you want to be treated" doesn't always apply to one who is subconsciously entitled. Twisting one's words to get what you want is selfish and manipulative... but people do it everyday.
I've had two situations in my life remind me of how entitled one person could actually be. I didn't realize it was this bad, but now that I do I am more than happy to share this knowledge with you all for future reference.
In one, I was told in shorter words that how I felt didn’t matter, and that because it specifically wasn’t me in involved in the circumstance I didn’t have the “right” to weigh in on discussions about it. Mind you, this circumstance not only affected me personally but it was causing someone I love to feel hurt and degraded. Wouldn’t you want to intervene in some way to stop the madness? To ensure that said person was taken care of?
In another, I was in this situation where someone who I called myself trying to talk to would always imply in short words to wanting to have sex with me. (Now if you know me, you know I ain’t even cut like that so that wasn’t gone happen.) What was crazy was how I kept letting it happen & excusing the behavior all because I thought it could develop into something else.
Man, somebody should’ve pinched me cause I was dreaming.
A straight up fantasy land.
It's nothing wrong with wanting your cake & eating it too, but if you're going to go after it then do it the right way.
Respectfully.
Graciously.
In a way that doesn't make me question your true self-esteem and character.
Both of these situations reminded me that even though you want someone to show emotions or do things the right way, if they’re not level-headed enough to be respectful in doing so, even if they are upset, they will cause damage to a situation that has no place being there. In both of these situations, neither of these people expressed & communicated in the most effective way their emotions.
Thank God that now I don't have to deal with someone who's a man physically, and still a young child mentally. I believe there's a difference between having immature elements to your character and just being downright childish.
Now that those things have came, went, and been resolved, I want to remind you-- the reader-- that going through this may have left me mind-boggled and questioning almost every word that would leave my mouth, but it only amplified my self worth. Why? Because I knew that the treatment I was being handed wasn’t on my level and I deserved better around me. Since being reminded of my self-worth, I refuse to let anyone treat me as anything less of royalty and plan on only doing things that will add success to my future.
And just to clarify...
Royalty doesn't mean putting me on a pedestal. (I think that's where a lot of people mess up)
I mean in the context of treating me as if I am adequate enough for your compassion & love. Additionally, that I am being edified at the highest esteem possible.
This treatment also isn’t subject to gender. A lot of times women like to to be treated like a queen, but forget that they want/need a king. How can you expect him to treat you so highly when you treat him like the scum of the earth?
Both genders need to do better with their treatment of each other, and if you’re trying to dog someone specifically then don’t dog the rest of us... half the time we don’t even know you or care about your situation. But we will, however, address the disrespect.
You just feel entitled to say what you want because you’re letting your confidence morph into cockiness, and that’s unfortunate.
Knowing what I know now, I would have never handled either of those situations the way I did. I had to remember that not everyone’s maturity level is where it may appear to be and you can’t give so much of yourself away
It is above me now.
Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.
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