Parental "Guidance"

Have you ever felt like your parent is always trying to push you to do something— whether it be a chore or a decision that can impact your day to day life?

What about feeling like they’re never there for you at some of your best moments? Were there moments in your life where a parent should’ve been there to intervene, but didn’t even take the time to ask you how you were doing which lead to you making a decision that maybe wasn’t the best choice.

It can be difficult when your parent always seems to be occupied with their career, taking care of the household, or even maintaining a relationship all of which are being put before you & your emotions.

Not being close to your parents can in-turn make or break how you are in your adult life. It may not seem like it right now, but our brains are still like sponges. Everything we take in physically but more so mentally affects our perspective, emotions, decisions, and even ideas of concepts that we go about life carrying around or perceiving is true.

Sometimes parents can even try, and push their dreams on you. They figure since they couldn't live their dream within their own life, they'll do it through yours. As if you didn't have enough going on between clubs or working or school-- now your living someone else's dream for them? They just don't understand that you're your own person, and deserve to be given at least the chance to pursue your dreams.

 Competition with siblings can be one of the worst things that you can endure when growing up. Sometimes your parents can put you against each other, or when favoritism is displayed in the household it can make one want to hold that position too.  Even being jealous of your sibling or vice versa in a general sense can be unhealthy because having that division in your household or family can lead to unnecessary drama, stress, and bitterness towards someone that shares the same mother or father as you. Sometimes you have to even take the parent out of the equation, and realize that if something were to happen to them they'd be all you have (immediate family wise)

Many parents try to have an open line of communication with their children which is not always the best approach to start with. Your effort is appreciated, but you have to remember that you're raising them differently than what your parents raised you so you can't treat them how your parents treated you. We want your advice, not a lecture.

You should have a communicative relationship with your parents. Maybe even do your best to try, and work your way up to be comfortable enough to talk to them about deeper issues. Some communication is better than none.

If not a parent, then some type of adult because your friends are on the same  maturity level as you in most cases so even if they give you advice it may not be precise because you all are seeing things the same way.

Every parent can’t be full-time or stay-at-home, so it’s your job to be able to comprehend that not everything they do was intended for you to take in or learn about. Their mistakes are not your mistakes (even though you can still learn from theirs) Yes, you are your mother’s or father’s child, but no you are not always going to get the best guidance from them.

Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.

Setting the Stage for Better

When things in your life are already going well, you don't necessarily think about what's next or what could potentially be even better than what you already have going for you.

We tend to think that once we get somewhere, or achieve our goal that the work is over.
But that's far from the truth.

You should always continue to strive for better even when you may seem satisfied with where you're at. There'll come a point when your satisfaction is overpowered with happiness; that's when you'll know you don't have to keep going unless you actually want to. You deserve to be both content & happy with whatever stage you are in your life right now.

Whether you're 22 or 42, there is always better for you, and it's never too later to grab a hold of it. The title is merely to express the fact that you are preparing for better to enter in to your life, but there's still more out there for you.

So what is your better?  What point are you at in your life, and where is the endpoint? What's all your hard work going towards? What is something you want to do, or see yourself doing but can't because you're settling for a hum-drum lifestyle. Your hum-drum, boring, tiring, and uneventful lifestyle is why you need to start setting the stage for better. Start taking the necessary steps to provide better for yourself because you deserve it.

Don't know the answer? That's completely OKAY! So many of us don't, but so many of us don't address it and like to paint this pretty picture of such a successful life, and how you think you're     living the best life to the fullest when you haven't even reached your full potential as a person. If you notice, a lot of people don't post their bad moments on social media. A lot of people don't post their downfalls or hardships on social media.. only the good moments. Why? Because we want to paint this picture of perfect, when we're nowhere near it.

Routines easily can become what stops you from preparing for the better things that can come to you in your life.

Preparing for what you're destined to be apart of or God's purpose for your life is also the best feeling.

Do be mindful that change can be hard, big or small, it's okay to shut down sometime. It's okay to want better, but be in circumstances where you may not be able to navigate to be able to set a better stage for yourself. But you can't let your circumstances be an enabler for you or a crutch-- any excuse for why things haven't been changing in your life.

 God has better for us, but until we start realizing that there is better and become open minded to new things in our lives, we won't be able to receive it from Him.

Setting the stage for you could be something you may not feel the least amount of comfortable doing. It could be something you thought you would never do. We know we want better for ourselves, why can't we fulfill what's necessary to do so?

Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.

Do You Know What Your Dreams Are?

"Never put your dreams in another person's hands because they will never love your dream like you do. " 

 - Billionaire PA

As your going about your life, and finding out your true interests along with dislikes you begin to form dreams about what you want to do with your life. These dreams can be about a future relationship, financial increase or even a career you want to have. In life, you will also come in contact with things or people that will try to stop you from living your dreams. Sometimes you can even stop yourself from living your dreams. I know when you first have a dream or an idea for something, you get so excited that you just want to tell someone but that can hinder you from a blessing.

  

Not everyone is meant to go where God could be taking you. 

I also know its easy to feel insecure about the dreams you have because you keep comparing your dreams to someone else's success story when you really should be building your own story. And if your comparing your life & success to someone else's then how could you possibly know your own?

No dream is ever to big or small,  so don't feel like you can't achieve them based off their size. Even though in hindsight, determining if a dream is too big or small could be the line that's drawn on if it's a goal or dream. Sometimes we think our goals are so far fetched that we can make them in to a dream, which can make us think it can't be a reality.

What could make you think your dreams aren't big enough?

Many of you could fear that your dream isn't big enough to reach your fullest potential. Others may find their dreams aren't big enough because of comparison. Whatever the case may be, don't let those things or anything else sway you from the dream you want to pursue.

For those of you that are just beginning to follow your dreams, or have felt stagnant while trying to follow your dreams may be at the point where you even know where you want to begin or continue. And that is OKAY! Not everything is something you have to see to believe. For example, you work a job for "x" amount of hours per week, and when you've put in both the time & energy for said job you believe that a direct deposit is going to be in your account, but you believe that before you even see it.

What's the difference with your dreams?

Yes, you still have things you think you want to do; you just never pursue them or you don't know what steps to take to achieve the dreams you want to see manifest. The first step, however, to achieving your dreams is believing them before you see them or before anyone else around you can see them. How can you expect someone to believe or invest in your dream if you can't even do it for yourself? If you don't know what your dreams are start with writing out things you want to accomplish both long, and short term. Then, determine what's at the top of your list and how attainable it is based off what the time frame you want it done in and start pushing towards it!

So what's holding you back? Well actually, I should say what do you think is holding you back? Stop allowing yourself to diminish your own dreams so that you know how to stop someone else who's going to try to diminish your dreams along the way. 

Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.