What about feeling like they’re never there for you at some of your best moments? Were there moments in your life where a parent should’ve been there to intervene, but didn’t even take the time to ask you how you were doing which lead to you making a decision that maybe wasn’t the best choice.
It can be difficult when your parent always seems to be occupied with their career, taking care of the household, or even maintaining a relationship all of which are being put before you & your emotions.
Not being close to your parents can in-turn make or break how you are in your adult life. It may not seem like it right now, but our brains are still like sponges. Everything we take in physically but more so mentally affects our perspective, emotions, decisions, and even ideas of concepts that we go about life carrying around or perceiving is true.
Sometimes parents can even try, and push their dreams on you. They figure since they couldn't live their dream within their own life, they'll do it through yours. As if you didn't have enough going on between clubs or working or school-- now your living someone else's dream for them? They just don't understand that you're your own person, and deserve to be given at least the chance to pursue your dreams.
Competition with siblings can be one of the worst things that you can endure when growing up. Sometimes your parents can put you against each other, or when favoritism is displayed in the household it can make one want to hold that position too. Even being jealous of your sibling or vice versa in a general sense can be unhealthy because having that division in your household or family can lead to unnecessary drama, stress, and bitterness towards someone that shares the same mother or father as you. Sometimes you have to even take the parent out of the equation, and realize that if something were to happen to them they'd be all you have (immediate family wise)
Many parents try to have an open line of communication with their children which is not always the best approach to start with. Your effort is appreciated, but you have to remember that you're raising them differently than what your parents raised you so you can't treat them how your parents treated you. We want your advice, not a lecture.
You should have a communicative relationship with your parents. Maybe even do your best to try, and work your way up to be comfortable enough to talk to them about deeper issues. Some communication is better than none.
If not a parent, then some type of adult because your friends are on the same maturity level as you in most cases so even if they give you advice it may not be precise because you all are seeing things the same way.
Every parent can’t be full-time or stay-at-home, so it’s your job to be able to comprehend that not everything they do was intended for you to take in or learn about. Their mistakes are not your mistakes (even though you can still learn from theirs) Yes, you are your mother’s or father’s child, but no you are not always going to get the best guidance from them.
Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.
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