First, and Foremost...

Before I get in to today's blogpost, I'd like to congratulate the class of 2018 on one of their greatest achievements. Whether graduating from high school or college you've put in the most time, and effort to get to the end goal. I commend all of you & wish you the most success.

The title of today's post is to give an "allusion" to my previous posts which talked about relationship problems, how I was feeling at the time, and what I wanted to share with people about my perspective. Now that I've been able to lay all of those things out on the table, I wanted to give an update.

After being in Washington D.C. for just a mere weekend, it helped open up my eyes and realize things that I thought I know about but didn't. For example, I thought I knew all about devastation and feeling sorry for myself, but being there and seeing my older cousin graduate from law school  I learned that not only should you not stay in a rut for too long but that at the end of everything, all you have is yourself. Relationship or not, you should always be your top priority. As you grow, and mature self care should become a top priority. Keep your physicial, mental, and social health in balance is what can benefit you the most in whatever you decide to do in life. Being there also helped me to remember that I’m not alone in all of this. There’s more people who are striving towards the same goal as you than what you think. To top that off, you don't have to feel sorry for yourself as long as what you think you should nor do you have to lay around in your own pity not knowing what to do. You stay miserable as long as you allow yourself to be.

Failure is another choice.

Are all the odds stacked against you really worth you not achieving your dreams? No one told you it would be easy, and if they did they were lying.

I'm not saying all this to say that your bad circumstances can’t shape you or you shouldn’t take heed to your own feelings, I'm saying that to say that you can’t let your current circumstances prevent you from having future success.

I am a young African-American girl in a world where there's not too many times I'm not always acknowledged or pushed to the back burner because I don’t fall into someone else’s guidelines.. In a world where, at any given moment one person’s decision (being mine or not) can have a 360 degree flip in my life.  Being apart of a system that could sometimes care, if need be, about the color that's painted across my skin. I realized that I'm not competing with anyone, but myself because the moment I compete with someone going the same path as me (to success) is the moment I've already lost half the battle. Why fight someone when I don't know what God had the going through for their own growth? Who am I to stunt that growth?

For those of you that unnecesarily argue with other over the most ignorant things should really stop. Not only is it childish and in some cases vindictive, but it's not worth it. For those of you that have graduated or will be graduates over the course of the next few weeks I'm sure have came to the conclusion that not every battle is worth it.

Always a pleasure sharing with you, thank you.